Do you drive? If so, you’ll know how important it is to check your
blindspots before you switch lanes. Otherwise, you’re likely to cause
It’s like that with our perceptions and knowledge –they have blindspots.
While it may be entertaining to watch “less than talented” people
audition American Idol, in reality these sort of delusions are less
appealing. It’s hard to be around the spouse who will not deal with
their temper, the co-worker who is oblivious to his body odor, or the
parent that will not admit to their drinking problem.
Just like we should look over our shoulder AND look in the rear-view
mirror AND the side mirrors to effectively operate our vehicles, most
people need feedback to better understand how to operate themselves.
Feedback is hard. No one likes hearing less than savory details about
themselves, even when the constructive criticism is provided lovingly.
Yet, this testing of our self-image or worldview can also help make us
operate “safely.” And us operating ourselves safely benefits others as
Nelson Mandela perhaps said it best:
For to be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in
a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others.
To do this we have be self-aware, courageous, and informed.
I say all this to let you know that this blog, true to form, will
reflect my human frailties and my biases, but also my ardent desire to
truly be free.